So I have mentioned before that one of my boys is my heart child, I was blessed with him when he was only six days old. He is my brother and his wife's child by birth, so I would have been his aunt. Well I guess technically I am still his aunt, but I have been *mommy* for almost two years now, and we are adopting him, so it will all be solidified soon.
We have been working on the adoption process for what seems like forever now. It was looking like it would be complete by December, and I was so Excited because you Can't Get A Better Christmas Present Then That, but now it's NOT going to be complete tell some time after his second birthday. His birthday is in February, so that's not much longer but still it's so frustrating, it seems like a never ending process. I was just told that I have to redo paperwork, because the process has taken too long, that is just annoying.
It's all worth it, but I can't say that I would ever want to go through these never ending hoops of fire again. We were discussing maybe doing the foster to adopt thing one more time, but I don't think my sanity would stay intact. We contemplated taking the second child that they had right after my boy, but she ran away to Montana, and he ended up in a wonderful foster family there, that wants to adopt him. She is supposedly unable now to have any more children, but I guess time will tell on that one. His brother is really adorable, it's hard to know that my boy's have another brother (and yes I consider him a brother to all my boys too) that we have yet to meet, but I hope some day, by keeping in contact with them that this will be possible.
I understand why they have you do all that you do to adopt, but it does seem unbalanced. I mean anyone can have a kid (meaning there is no paperwork to fill out, no proving that you will be a good parent.) and unfortunately lots cannot raise them well or at all. Then there are many who want to adopt, but the process is so complicated and expensive that it makes it difficult to actually do it. Foster to adopt is less expensive, but just as complicated, if not more complicated. I know there really isn't any solution to this, and of course we have to make sure that the placement is safe for the child.
I can't help but feel right now though that the whole process if way more complicated (and Expensive!) then it needs to be.
Beauty for Ashes
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